Am I Supposed To Have Confidence In My Looks/a Good Body Image After All This?
Im female, 22 and have had a few incidents which have basically said Im ugly. Im slim, toned, petite but its my face that im concerned about. We did facial attractiveness activity at college for part of a topic where all 23 people in the class (honest, sensible students) had to anonymously rate each others facial attraction out of 10 and each score was written down and an average given. I got mainly 4’s out of 10 the lowest average score in the class (4.6) even below the teacher and an overweight girl who was sat opposite me (sorry its just what i noticed). So yea I didn’t know what to think.
Then I met a guy my age who was still a virgin like me (who was worried about his looks) but after a few dates didn’t feel it was working so instead of leading him on i told him id rather just stay friends and he said ‘geez I must be seriously ugly’. I said ‘no your great its just me’ And he said that when he first saw me he wasn’t so sure but it was my personality that he thought was right. He posted on a forum asking for advice saying he was worried that he was ugly because a girl (meaning me) broke up with him who wasn’t exactly the best of looking..and he is now worried that pretty much any girl will reject him.
He apologised so we stayed on friendly terms but he still made insulting comments he was asking for advice off me and wanted me to rate his looks I refused and just told him that he looked fine and that he will find the right girl. He replied ‘well lets be honest here, I couldnt even start with you’.
So yea how am I supposed to be happy with how I look and have a good self image after all this? Knowing that Im a 4 out of 10 lol. Id rather have not known tbh cause i thought i looked fine before, despite my mum telling me to wear more make up and my dad saying that he looked nicer than me when he was younger.
don worry babe …i kno u look jus fine
don listen to wot ppl say,cuz u wont be able to satisfy everyone
everyone of us has his/her own standards and everyone of us is beautiful in one way or another
its jus vain whn thinkin about jus looks cuz u have more to offer thn tht
try not to listen nd choose wot suits u best as in clothes nd hair to look ur best nd im sure ul stand out
wish u best